This is a re-blog because I found it interesting. I’ll leave the writer and context anonymous to keep things intriguing and mysterious.
Why am I repeatedly attracted to non-Christian ladies? I’m not talking about the immoral, liberal, deceptive, blatantly “worldly” women that might come to mind as complete antitheses of a “good” Christian woman. Those are not — as far as I can presently consciously discern myself — the qualities I’m attracted to in the general non-Christian ladies whom I am referring to. By the world’s standards, these ladies I’m thinking of are “good“, nice, honest, hard-working people with admirable values, the ones whom most people consider “winners” or “keepers” and whom most parents want their children to marry. The problem is… God calls us to more than “goodness”. So much more.
The gospel is the story of God redeeming sinners. The gospel begins with God. God created man in His image and provided for all his physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. God was the Creator and man was the creature, so there was a natural order that man was to serve and worship his Maker. Man was at this time in perfect communion with God, enjoying the uninhibited presence of God and worshipping Him, as he was created to do. But despite being in glorious circumstances with everything that he needed and more, man disobeyed God and rebelled against Him, falling short of His glory and disqualifying himself from the paradise of glorious communion with his Creator. Man’s sin broke the relationship between him and God. As a perfectly just God, He cannot allow sin to go unpunished, so man blemished with sin is necessarily sentenced to suffer God’s eternal wrath in hell. On his own, man had and still today has no power to repair this broken relationship. But God, in His perfect love, sent His Son Jesus to live a life of a man in the perfect obedience that we failed to live in and die the bloody death on the cross that, because of His perfectly obedient life, was solely qualified to serve as the substitution for the spiritual deaths (eternal separation from God in hell) that we all fully deserved. Three days after Jesus’ death and burial, He resurrected from death, authenticating the sufficiency of His death to resurrect man from his sin and from the penalty of his sin so that they might return to the originally intended state of glorious communion with God His Creator. Through the finished work of Jesus, this free gift is readily available to all those who would believe. The gospel is unfinished, but it will be finished. Just as the gospel began with God, the gospel will also finish with God when Jesus comes again to claim His people and make a new heavens and a new earth at the consummation of the ages. At that time, every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that He is God, and He will receive all the honor and praise and adoration for evermore. God, in a unilateral covenant with man, unconditionally loves and saves His own people for His own glory.
THIS is what defines and distinguishes true Christianity from any and every other theological or religious system of thinking. THE GOSPEL is why we the Redeemed strive to love — because He first loved us. THE GOSPEL is why we the Redeemed do good works. THE GOSPEL is why we the Redeemed pursue holiness and sanctification (to become “better” people) — because God calls us to “be holy just as [He] is holy.” Clearly, people don’t need the gospel in order to show love, in order to do good works, or in order to live conservative, pious lives. This is what many people in our contemporary society do. They just strive to be “good people”, but they are not religious. They don’t need religion to be good people, they say. This may appear to be true, but this is where this gospel distinctive of Christianity is crucial: the end goal is not to be good people. The end goal is the glory of God. Pastor John M. Kim says in his message “The Glory of God in the Church”:
“The glory of God is what we would call the summum bonum of life, the greatest good, the highest good. And if we understand that all of life revolves around this, the glory of God, then everything that we would be a part of, it would be the best thing. Why? Because it’s about the best thing: the glory of God. Romans 11:36 says, ‘And from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever.’ You see if we indeed understand that all things are from God and that we are only able to do all things for God, and that all things are ultimately for His glory, if that defines our world view, if we have that as the central and the primary reference point of our lives, then that would affect everything else that we do.”
You may not need the gospel to be what you or the world may consider a “good person”, but you do need the gospel to glorify God. In an age when so many professing Christians and so-called churches “water down” Christianity and don’t talk about sin, damnation, judgment, and hell, it’s no wonder that post-modern thinking has flourished and that people think that they don’t need the gospel. They think this because their aim is too limited, their understanding is incomplete, their sight is blinded. Their goal is merely to be a “good person.” The goal of those redeemed by the gospel is the glory of God. Christians ought not necessarily to strive to be “good people” but to be GOSPEL people.
At the end of the day, I am thankful that my mind has been renewed enough by the Holy Spirit to think Biblically and clearly enough to not actually pursue romance with a non-Christian lady, but when I check my heart, I realize that I am still attracted to a lot of things in non-Christian ladies. These are not bad things to be attracted to: a fun personality, a pretty face, a good work ethic, a nice smile, a passion for her work and/or for service, a good smell, a compassion for people and a vigor for helping them, confidence, determination, intelligence, some charming quirk — these are things that a Proverbs 31 woman (an ideal Christian wife) very well could (for some of these qualities, should) have — but the fact that I would be attracted to the whole of a woman for these things devoid of the gospel rooted in and bearing fruit in her life to the extreme that I would think in my heart, “Man, if only I didn’t care about ‘those gospel qualities,'” tells me that I still have a LOT of sanctification that needs to happen in my own heart. For what am I implying when I think such things if not, “Man, I wish I weren’t a gospel person. I wish I was blind. I wish I didn’t know the love of Christ and the joy of salvation. I wish I was completely without any real hope in this life and in the eternity to come.” What audacity! What foolishness! Woe is me!
The more I become a gospel person and not just a good person, the more I will be attracted to other gospel people, specifically, the one gospel woman who will one day (Lord-willing) be my wife in a marriage that reflects the wonderful gospel to the glory of God.
She’s been on my mind (she’s working overtime)
She’s got perfect reasons, says she loves to talk to Jesus
I think I believe her when she says
Life can be so simple if we’d all just learn to pray
-“Everything Little Thing”, Hawk Nelson